I’ve been meaning to write this post for quite some time, but I wanted to be sure I listened to everyone’s constructive criticisms from my post on Missionaries. As you read, realize that these posts are part of a personal blog, but I also want to come across more objectively. I realize that posting based purely on emotions will hinder influencing those on the opposite end of the argument. I’m going to try to give credit where credit is do, as well as post intelligent points that will hopefully sway those on the other end of the fence. That being said, as with my last post, I’ll give you some background on my origin concerning the topic of homosexuality, then I will go into the main point of the article.
Homosexuality is a huge issue in the Pentecostal church, as well as most other denominations. I, however, came from a Pentecostal background, so that is the origin of my experience. My father, as well as my uncle and grandfather are extremely homophobic, so I grew up being taught that homosexuality was disgusting and not natural by any means. My uncle and father had a constant schtick where they both played the role of gay men, speaking in effeminate voices to each other and all around giving their perception on how they believe gay men acted. As a young adult I thought they were hilarious. I never thought of the implications of hate and intolerance that underlined beneath their jokes. In fact, the entire family thought this was hilarious. I remember us sitting around a dinner table during an extended family holiday. Everyone would laugh when my father would flamboyantly flip his hand while lisping something like “Oh (uncle’s name) you’re so silly.” Now, this might seem harmless, but there is another part to the equation.
Whenever a man we met, such as a waiter, would speak with a slightly effeminate voice, he was labeled as a ‘freaken homo.’ This of course was said in the most derogatory tone possible. Subtly I was being indoctrinated to hate homosexuals, or at the very least see them as freaks. My family and I used to take annual trips to Disney World. When I was around 12, I remember hearing that Ellen Degeneres came out to the public. I did not hear this from the news, I heard it from my father seeing a billboard in the park with her on it. I asked who she was, and he replied “She’s a dyke (followed by arrogant laughter.)” My father also had a huge issue with Disney sponsoring gay parades. I specifically remember him mentioning this and how disgusted he was with it. Before I continue I want to clarify something: The reason for this post is not to attack my family. Several of us are not on speaking terms, but hopefully this will give you insight into the mindset I had by age of 21. At that time, I still believed in a higher being, I was still part of the church, and I believed that homosexuality was disgusting and I looked down on anyone that was a homosexual.
At the age of 21 I moved to California in order to pursue my interests in writing and film. As one can assume, this put me in direct contact with a much larger concentration of homosexuality. I met a bunch of friends within the first week of being here, and one of them invited me to go out with them to a club in Hollywood called Tiger Heat. This particular club was mainly comprised of homosexuals, which I did not know. My first experience with witnessing two men make out happened, and I was completely disgusted and felt very uncomfortable. I met many homosexuals that night. I found out that night that they were ordinary just like anyone else, if not friendlier and easier to talk to. This was the night that I began to question what was so wrong about homosexuality.
I am now 26, I’m an atheist, and I am a firm supporter of gay rights. Instead of being disgusted with homosexuality, I’m now disgusted by the persecution they receive from most religions. I’m disgusted that they don’t have the right to marry in the majority of states. There are still areas in America where it is not safe to be a homosexual, mainly the bible belt. While the Muslim countries have stricter penalties, such as life in prison or the death penalty, I think the only reason we don’t have that in America is our democracy and Constitution. The bible is just as harsh about homosexuality as the Koran is. Luckily the Constitution does what it was made for: it protects minorities.
Where does the belief that homosexuality is wrong come from, and why is the church so against it? One verse is the culprit. Others follow after it, but this is the most scathing:
Leviticus 20:13: “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.” (this is actually the first mention of homosexuality in the Bible.)
Sadly, Christians seem to forget this verse:
Luke 6:37: “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”
From seeing both sides, I’m well acquainted with the arguments the Christians will throw against homosexuality. All of them are irrelevant and ignorant, and I’ll list a few and explain why.
1. “If we give rights to homos, why not give rights to pedophiles and bestiality lovers?”
This shouldn’t warrant any explanation, but sadly it does. Homosexuals engage in CONSENSUAL sex. Pedophiles and animal lovers do not. To compare these people to homosexuals is disgusting and outright wrong, yet I’ve heard many Christians think they’re so clever in coming up with this.
2. “Marriage comes from the Bible, therefor it should only be between a man and a woman.”
This statement could not be more wrong. Every major culture and religion has had marriage. The ancient Greeks had marriage that was documented in a legal manner far before Christianity decided to coin it as their own ritual. Native Americans had their own method of polygamist marriage before even interacting with Christian settlers. Let’s hypothetically assume the bible DID come up with the concept of marriage. How does this in any way warrant the prohibition marriage of two consenting adults? The bible has no place in politics. Sadly, the reason most states don’t legalize same-sex marriage is because of Christianity.
3. “If they’re gonna kiss and touch each other, they should do it behind doors. Two men kissing is disgusting.”
So it’s okay for a male and female to kiss in public, but if you’re homosexual, you can only show affection behind closed doors? Just because you are ignorant and intolerant, doesn’t mean some sort of rule should be made. This is where an opinion can become dangerous. Luckily there is no law against public affection in America regardless of gender, but in many countries it can land you in jail for life, or you can even be executed.
When I was around 16, we had a man come to our church to teach a seminar on homosexuality. He himself was a former homosexual but was saved by the grace of god and now is married to a woman. He claimed to no longer have sexual urges towards men. Looking back now, this is heartbreaking to me. Homosexuality is natural and most likely genetic, and to force someone to love or be attracted to something they aren’t is wrong. Imagine telling a straight person they can no longer have sex with the opposite gender, they must engage in same gender sex. This is exactly what Christians expect of homosexuals. There is something known as the “Ex-Gay Movement” going on in America. There are several Christian sponsored organizations that provide materials and seminars with the purpose of changing homosexual desires into heterosexual desires. Teen suicide rates are higher in Conservative anti-gay areas than they are in liberal areas. (source: http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2011/04/18/teen-suicide-rates-higher-in-conservative-anti-gay-areas). Why must these people change their natural desires in order to please someone intolerant and ignorant?
I am amazed when speaking to a conservative about this. They actually believe that just because they think it’s wrong, it should not be allowed. What they don’t realize is that homosexuality is a natural occurrence that not only happens with humans, but with around 1,500 species of animals as well. For someone to say that homosexuality is not natural, they are simply uneducated in the subject. Apes, our close relatives, regularly engage in homosexual activity. I’ve found that conservatives tend to not want to know the other side of something. They don’t want their beliefs to be threatened by facts.
Many Christians will say “I’m fine with homosexuality, but it’s still a sin.” This is STILL offensive. They think it’s a polite way of disagreeing with homosexuality. These same Christians believe that homosexuals are going to burn in hell forever simply because they’re attracted to the opposite sex. Yet I guarantee they will agree that the “Fag” haters of the Westboro Baptist Church are crazy. It’s hypocrisy in its highest degree, equatable to those that mocked the May 21st movement yet still believe the world will end in their lifetime.
I must give credit where credit is due: there is a new Christian movement that accepts homosexuality ( http://www.thechristianleftblog.org/ ). I’m very happy with this and they have my support. I still disagree with their beliefs and I think they’re rewriting the bible, but it’s a step in the right direction. I don’t mind Christianity as long as it’s inherent racism and bigotry does not infiltrate politics.












